“Once upon a time, there lived a young woman
who was lucky enough to meet a man
who she believed was her prince.
They fell in love,
had a child,
and almost lived happily ever after.
But after 20 years of kissing her prince,
the woman realized he was actually a frog!”
Yes, that’s the story behind the Wedding Ring Coffin. Our products were inspired by my own real life situation – a seemingly happy marriage that suddenly died after 20 years. As with any death, the following year took me through the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.
• Denial – I really didn’t see it coming. I honestly believed throughout most of our time together that we would live happily ever after; that we’d be together until the bitter end.
• Anger – trust me, there was plenty to be angry about.
• Bargaining – this certainly came into play while we negotiated the separation agreement, although I’m pretty sure that’s not what Elisabeth Kubler-Ross was referring to.
• Depression – because it seemed like a horrible loss. We had so much going for us and it could have been a very happy ending.
• Acceptance – it didn’t take me long to realize that my life was taking a major turn. At the same time, I knew I had no choice but to accept the fact that I was entering a new, unexpected stage of life.
Once I came to accept my new situation, I wondered what to do with all the mementos from the marriage. I immediately took down all the photographs that included “him” and stored them in a box along with the wedding album. But what would I do with my wedding ring? I’m not a violent person, but I had visions of smashing it to smithereens. In fact, I did just that. On the 23rd anniversary of the day I had met my husband, a dear friend accompanied me to the very location where I had met him. I stood there, with hammer in hand, gave my marriage a proper eulogy, and then proceeded to smash my wedding ring into a flattened gold pancake. Now what would I do with it? One day after attending a funeral, the idea suddenly hit me. My wedding ring had a proper eulogy, now it deserved a proper resting place. The wedding ring coffin! What better way to bury that ultimate symbol of a dead marriage?
Bury the past and move on to a new tomorrow