Why is it that after getting divorced most women still long for another committed relationship? It seems like all the single women I know are just dying to meet someone, to find that special man to share their lives with. While some break ups are amicable and painless, most are not. Usually there’s a lot of unhappiness leading up to the split and things continue to go downhill until the bitter end. There’s often a lot of fighting, cursing, scheming, and general nastiness involved. So why would any woman want to put herself through all of that again?
I’ve decided it’s kind of like pregnancy and childbirth. First, a woman goes through 9 months filled with an assortment of attacks on her body — morning sickness, weight gain, stretch marks, varicose veins, sore breasts, and hemorrhoids to name a few. Then there’s the labor and delivery, a long, painful event involving bleeding, stretching, cutting, and tearing in various places. There’s often screaming and cursing involved and finally complete relief at having survived this bodily assault followed by a vow to NEVER go through that again. So why do so many women go on to have more children? Because just as time heals that episiotomy, it also helps you to forget the pain of childbirth.
And there’s the comparison. Even though a divorce can be incredibly painful, over time you somehow manage to forget about all the pain. Well, maybe it’s not completely forgotten but with time, it doesn’t seem as bad as when you were actually going through it. Instead of remembering only the negatives of that relationship, there are thoughts and hopes of love in a new committed relationship.
Are you ready for the birth of a new relationship?
