It’s been almost two years since I had a divorce party and it’s incredible to see how much more mainstream they’ve become. More and more women (and men) are realizing the need to acknowledge such an important event in their lives and a whole industry has been growing around them—-divorce party invitations, divorce cakes, and divorce gifts (like the Wedding Ring Coffin!!!!). And now finally, a divorce party song! “You’re Free” was written by Carrie Johnson and is destined to become a classic. To celebrate the launch of the song, our friends at LuvemOrLeavem.com are having a video contest. Women (sorry, guys) are invited to submit a video by themselves or with friends singing the Divorce Party song.
Go to http://luvemcontests.blogspot.com for all the details. But hurry, videos must be submitted by December 15 so get out your video cameras and start singing!
A new reality show for a major cable network is looking for newly single women all across the US who are recently divorced (within the last year), or currently going through a divorce.
We’re looking for attractive, outgoing women with vivacious personalities who want to celebrate their re-introduction into the single life; additionally, we’re looking for women who are going to receive or have received a large amount of money from their former other half.
The women we’re looking for would love to plan or are already planning a party to “celebrate” their divorce…Whether it’s a ski trip with the girls to Vail, a trip to Miami with VIP table service and limos, or a girls’ trip to Vegas or the Big Apple, we’re looking for the right woman and her fun-loving group of supportive friends. If you fit the bill, email beckyscasting@gmail.com and tell us why you’d be good for the show, a little bit about yourself, a photo, and in which city you live.
It’s been a week since news of the Madonna/Guy Ritchie divorce broke. I have to confess that my first reaction was to side with Guy. Madonna certainly doesn’t seem like she’d be the easiest person to get along with. Perhaps I’m letting her public persona cloud my judgment, but I’d guess she’s a bit of an egomaniac, a diva, and just generally high maintenance. Not to mention the rumors of her alleged affair with Alex Rodriguez. So, I sided with Guy. But that changed today when I heard a news report stating that Guy described Madonna as “old, fat, ugly, and wrinkled.”
WHAT???? If she’s old, fat, ugly, and wrinkled what does that say about the rest of us regular women??? You don’t have to like her, but you have to admit that Madonna is an inspiration to women in their 40’s and 50’s—-we can look like that!!!! So sorry Guy, you’ve lost my support.
As the saying goes, timing is everything. So when is it the right time to tell your family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, and other assorted relations that you and your spouse have decided to call it quits? It’s complicated. First of all, you better be sure that there’s no chance that you and your spouse will be reconciling. There’s nothing worse than premature annunciation.
There’s also a kind of hierarchy that needs to be followed. It really is important to make sure the people closest to you hear the news directly from you and not through the grapevine. I accomplished this by sending out a mass email. But I came up with another idea as I was reading this weekend’s Sunday NY Times. They have a whole section devoted to wedding announcements. How about a section devoted to separations and divorces? It would be so efficient, an easy way to inform a lot of people. It would also give match.com and jdate some competition.
Wedding announcements typically include a picture of the happy couple and all their vital statistics such as age, employment, parents’ info and where the happy union took place. A newly separated or divorced man or woman could submit an announcement with their age and employment as well as additional data such as height and weight. Other optional information—-length of marriage and ages of children. All this information could accompany a fetching photo of the newly available.
Mr. X and I finally decided to split up after 20 years of marriage. I’m not sure how he would characterize those 20 years, but I’d say we had a good 17 out of 20. The three not so good years weren’t simply the final three years but it’s my estimate of the total days throughout the entire marriage where I wasn’t happy. The days of being mad, giving him the silent treatment, hoping he’d get stuck at the office and I’d be asleep when he got home, fantasizing about life without him. Yet even during those times I never really thought we wouldn’t be together forever. I took my marriage vows very seriously and truly thought we’d grow old together. We did try to make it work but ultimately it became apparent that we’d be better off without each other. Life is full of surprises and sometimes you just have to adjust your thinking.
Once we made our decision, we waited a few months before we “went public.” During that time I gave a lot of thought as to how I would break the news of the breakup to my family and close friends. I made a list of all the people I’d have to tell and realized that I’d have to break the news over three dozen times. I honestly didn’t think I had the energy, either physically or emotionally, to go through it so many times. I finally decided to tell everybody via email. I know that might sound a little cold, but it was the best thing for me. I spent a lot of time preparing the email, agonizing over every word. I guess I did a pretty good job with the email because in the end everybody, all the most important people in my life, reacted just as I had hoped they would—with love, support, and encouragement.
