Re-entering the dating scene can be fun and exciting but it can also be tough, challenging, frustrating, and depressing. A recently divorced woman I know shared some of her dating experiences with me. Amongst her many stories was one recurring theme which I found particularly interesting. It seems there are a lot of men out there who think they’re David Copperfield, they like to just disappear. My friend has had it happen to her on several occasions. It happened after dating a guy just a few times, after many times, and it happened after being in a relationship for six months. In each situation, everything seemed to be going great. With the six-monther, he had even professed his love for her but suddenly the guy was gone, never to be heard from again. I know what you’re thinking, it’s her; she’s misreading things, she’s probably getting too needy or demanding. That’s what I thought, too. But I’ve spoken to many other women and it’s happened repeatedly to them as well. One woman told me she’d been involved with a man for 14 months and he pulled a David Copperfield!! What’s going on? Do men get more selfish as they get older? Ruder? More cowardly? I vote for cowardly—-what do you think?

This is a story which was reported in New York’s Daily News on August 21, 2008:

The saga began after Auguste thought his beautiful 26-year-old wife was cheating on him and he roughed her up, cops said. She reported him for domestic abuse, and Auguste became enraged that she would turn on him after he had bought her the lavish ring and spent some $38,000 on their wedding.

Folks, you can’t make this stuff up. All I can say is— that woman needs a Wedding Ring Coffin!

So John Edwards had an affair. Big deal—just another politician who let his power go to his (little) head. Okay, some background. John Edwards and his wife, Elizabeth, have been married for 30 years. In 2004, Elizabeth was diagnosed with breast cancer. In March 2007, she announced that her cancer had returned and that it was incurable. What’s most interesting to me is that Senator Edwards, while admitting the affair, tried to minimize the damage by assuring us that he became involved with this other woman when Elizabeth’s cancer was in remission. What a good guy. He wouldn’t have an affair while his wife was deathly ill, only while she was in remission.

Such a thoughtful, considerate adulterer, don’t you think?

Why is it that after getting divorced most women still long for another committed relationship? It seems like all the single women I know are just dying to meet someone, to find that special man to share their lives with. While some break ups are amicable and painless, most are not. Usually there’s a lot of unhappiness leading up to the split and things continue to go downhill until the bitter end. There’s often a lot of fighting, cursing, scheming, and general nastiness involved. So why would any woman want to put herself through all of that again?

I’ve decided it’s kind of like pregnancy and childbirth. First, a woman goes through 9 months filled with an assortment of attacks on her body — morning sickness, weight gain, stretch marks, varicose veins, sore breasts, and hemorrhoids to name a few. Then there’s the labor and delivery, a long, painful event involving bleeding, stretching, cutting, and tearing in various places. There’s often screaming and cursing involved and finally complete relief at having survived this bodily assault followed by a vow to NEVER go through that again. So why do so many women go on to have more children? Because just as time heals that episiotomy, it also helps you to forget the pain of childbirth.

And there’s the comparison. Even though a divorce can be incredibly painful, over time you somehow manage to forget about all the pain. Well, maybe it’s not completely forgotten but with time, it doesn’t seem as bad as when you were actually going through it. Instead of remembering only the negatives of that relationship, there are thoughts and hopes of love in a new committed relationship.

Are you ready for the birth of a new relationship?

After 24 years of marriage Morgan Freeman and Myrna Colley-Lee are putting an end to their marriage. Colley-Lee, a costume designer, began divorce proceedings after hearing Freeman cheated on her with a close family friend.

Who Gets The Coffin? Morgan Freeman (30.0%, 39 Votes) Myrna Colley-Lee (70.0%, 93 Votes) Total Voters: 132  Loading ...

Having just survived a car crash, perhaps “getting the coffin” is not exactly high on Morgan Freeman’s bucket list. But that is for you to decide.

UPDATE:  The people have spoken and the Wedding Ring Coffin goes to Myrna Colley-Lee.  Thanks to all who contributed to the poll.