Celebrating Your Divorce: A Step By Step Guide
From birth through death, we acknowledge major life events with various rites and ceremonies. Baptisms, christenings, confirmations, bar/bat mitzvahs, graduations, and weddings are some of the traditional celebrations in one’s life. Then there are funerals, the final ceremony in the celebration of a life. A divorce is basically the death of a marriage, yet people don’t typically acknowledge a divorce with any sort of ceremony. Isn’t that odd? A divorce is just as significant an event as a marriage but for the most part it just happens without the recognition and celebration it deserves.
Celebrating your divorce can be as somber or festive as you would like. The most important thing is to acknowledge it with a ceremony, a party, or both. Whatever kind of celebration you choose, you’ll definitely find the experience to be cathartic. You’ll feel a real sense of closure and it will help you to “bury the past and move on to a new tomorrow.”
First you must decide on the type of celebration you want to have. The possibilities are endless. You can
invite your guests to your home for a cocktail party; have dinner at your favorite restaurant; rent a limousine and go bar hopping; stage a mock funeral…
Who do you want to include in your divorce celebration? Only women or are men allowed? Make a guest list.
Once you’ve determined the number of people and the type of celebration, you’re ready to figure out the details of where and when it will be held. The next step is to send out invitations. We offer these unique divorce party invitations.
Like any party, you need to decide on food, drink, and music but a divorce party also offers an opportunity for some unusual additions. Of course, my number one suggestion is to include a Wedding Ring Coffin as part of the event. At my own divorce party, I gave my marriage a eulogy before placing my wedding ring in the Wedding Ring Coffin. Reflecting on that difficult time in my life while surrounded by so many close friends was a special moment for me. Some people go a step further and literally bury their Wedding Ring Coffin. One friend buried hers at the beach.
After the eulogy, we all feasted on a beautiful divorce cake, which looked like a typical wedding cake. Perched on top were the original bride and groom that sat on top of my wedding cake 22 years earlier----minus the groom’s head. Check out this link for some truly original ideas.
Party favors are always fun. You can give each guest a divorce-themed T-shirt, anything from "Newly Single" to "I Do...NOT!!". Or you can create your own CD with your favorite break-up songs. We offer “The Joy of Divorce,” a book filled with quotes about marriage and divorce which are both funny and incredibly true.
As you celebrate your divorce, remember that it isn’t just the end of your marriage; you’re also at the beginning of a whole new chapter in your life. So celebrate the new beginning! Bury the past and move on to a new tomorrow.